So i am researching depression

[lyger1983]

i have been told from u a few people before that i seem like i have a mild case of depression. everything i have read, i have most of the systems that go along with depression. i am taking some st johns wart right now, and i have an appointment with a therapist on the 29th of the month. im just wondering if anyone else have ever gone through this before, and what helped u?

[brandonz28]

there was one time about a year ago that i questioned myself that i might have had it, also did some research and it looked like i did, and it sucks, but i didnt want to admit it, she i mean i was 19 best time of your life not a time to be depressed over crap! so i surrounded myself with things that made me happy and it slowly went away, infact i have never thought about it untill now


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[Lyle A]

I think alot of it is psycological. Renew your mind and change your thinking. The word of God is good for that. What's good for the soul is good for the mind.

[lyger1983]

i dont allow my self to be happy...i make myself not laugh at funny things...and i dont know why...and all of this drags my wife down...she is a very happy person by nature...and she tries to be happy for the both of us, and i just dont let myself do it...dk why cuz i want to be happy...she thinks she doesnt make me happy, but she is the only true thing that does.

[lyger1983]

I think alot of it is psycological. Renew your mind and change your thinking. The word of God is good for that. What's good for the soul is good for the mind.
i have been praying morning and night since she left lyle. i am also reading my bible daily now.

[WhiteZombie]

I write things down.

[L0tuS]

my girl broke up with me last year and i took the whole break up pretty bad , hr's after we broke up i got kicked out of skool with drug's had to deal with the whole court stuff and for like 2 weeks after i got kicked out of skool all i was doing is sitting around the house talking to no one and i was depressed like crazy , it also didnt help that i wasnt sober for a min from drinking and was addicted to painkillers, it only got worst when i was being drug tested every week so instead of drinking my problems away i had to deal with them sober.and then i brought my 89'RS and things just got better after that. i hope every thing works out for u man.

[lyger1983]

I write things down.
can u explain a lil bit more?

[Menekali]

i have been told from u a few people before that i seem like i have a mild case of depression. everything i have read, i have most of the systems that go along with depression. i am taking some st johns wart right now, and i have an appointment with a therapist on the 29th of the month. im just wondering if anyone else have ever gone through this before, and what helped u?
I would say, i have a mild case as well. It runs in my family, my mother is a manic depressive (extreme case, basically wastes your life away).

I'll be in an ok mood, and then sort of drop out of it, or, i'll want to say something nice, do something nice, but there's something holding me back for some reason. Sleep issues can induce a sort of depression as well, or the sleep issue can be initially caused by the depression in the first place.

As far as advice, everything is case specific to you, what's going on with you, your family history, things like that. Have you always had a suspicion of depression, or is it hitting you now with these trouble with your wife? There's some mild medication that will help, but not allways needed, and personally, sj johns wart proved to be pointless. Talking may also help (with your doctor).

[Sassy8722]

Keep taking the St Johns wort, it's excellent. I thought a couple of years ago I was depressed, and didn't even find out until recently what was wrong with me. I seriously was never ever happy, didn't care about anything or anybody, never bothered to get out of my pajamas, laid around the house all day. My problem was not ME though, it was my boyfriend. He is addicted to cocaine and went into rehab a couple of months ago, and while he was in there I went to many classes and read many books and realized that everything that was ever wrong with me stemmed from this problem. I know it seems so obvious now but i honestly didn't link the two together. It's hard for me to share this, but it's probably just as hard for you to share everything you shared. I am still dealing with this problem but i have grown and realized it's not my problem to worry about and that I should care, but letting if affect me will do no good because I cannot control anyone's actions. Is there anything going on in your life that could possibly be a hidden depression causer? It doesn't have to be something recent, or major, the strangest things could cause this. Good luck. :)

[lyger1983]

i have been like this for awhile, i mean having some kind of depression. i can be in a really good mood, all happy and stuff, then in the blink of an eye im in a very bad irriatable mood, i become very angry for no reason...

[lyger1983]

Keep taking the St Johns wort, it's excellent. I thought a couple of years ago I was depressed, and didn't even find out until recently what was wrong with me. I seriously was never ever happy, didn't care about anything or anybody, never bothered to get out of my pajamas, laid around the house all day. My problem was not ME though, it was my boyfriend. He is addicted to cocaine and went into rehab a couple of months ago, and while he was in there I went to many classes and read many books and realized that everything that was ever wrong with me stemmed from this problem. I know it seems so obvious now but i honestly didn't link the two together. It's hard for me to share this, but it's probably just as hard for you to share everything you shared. I am still dealing with this problem but i have grown and realized it's not my problem to worry about and that I should care, but letting if affect me will do no good because I cannot control anyone's actions. Is there anything going on in your life that could possibly be a hidden depression causer? It doesn't have to be something recent, or major, the strangest things could cause this. Good luck. :)
i have had a pretty screwed up life until the past couple years...not much i wanna talk about at the moment...but i just dont let go of things easily, and i left them fester and all that, and it just screws up everything...i hate that my wife left...but it may have been the best thing for me right now...it woke e up and i am seeing what i need to change and fix.

[Menekali]

Themood changes could be bi-polar?

[lyger1983]

could be but idk, ill find out when i see the therapist...i had a ex gf that was bi-polar...and she was nuts.

[L0tuS]

i think i had a cat that was bi-polar cause it would be sleeping on u and it would be makeing that purring sound cats make then they it would just jump up freeking out and start clawing the closest thing by it liek it just had a flash back from vietnam

[Menekali]

Mild bi-polarism isn't that un heard of, alot of people have, and just don't know it.

[lyger1983]

w/e is wrong with me, i ope the therapist will help me work it out.

[sdavis2702]

yea it is kinda common. my girl is trying to get me to get help. i am up and down several times a day. i wonder if it the therapist will work Tim. you say you're reading the Bible daily now also. i'm sure that helps. i'm not too religious but i just started concentrating on that a little bit and it helps me mentally. i dont know how... it just does.

[lyger1983]

im doing all i can, the more the better.

[Lethalchem]

Working with a professional was your smartest decision.

[86IROCZ]

I have to agree with Lethal on this one. It was a good decision to see a therapist. I am currently seeing one because I was having a really hard time dealing with Michael's death and it's really helped me a lot. Gives me insight to things that never really occured to me and helps me realize that the thoughts and feelings I have are normal to feel and that I'm not alone in this. I know our situations aren't the same, but in both situations, you kinda gotta figure out who you are all over again. I really hope it works out for you and I'm confident that it'll work out for the best, whatever that might be. Keep reading your bible and praying. I know it helps.

Feel free to PM if ya need an ear to listen
-Rebecca

[WhiteZombie]

can u explain a lil bit more?


Sure.

When things get too hard for me to swallow and sort out I sit down and write how I feel. Like, no holds barred, honest thoughts and feelings. It's not always a quick process, but at the end of it I always feel better. Healed a little. Ya dig? And later, if I choose, I can read back and reflect.

I know it's not for everyone, and I certainly would suggest it before seeking trained, professional assistance, but it helps me. Maybe it'll help you.

[Randy L]

Tim,
Now that you are seeing a professional, I feel you are already on the way towards a "recovery" and will see a great life ahead of you. Keep us posted.

Also, keep a journal and write down all your feelings and moods that you have experienced. Also try to write down what you think it was that caused you to expereince that emotion. This can really help to visualize and identify a trend/problem.

[str8upchevy]

Hey Tim, first of all this is going to be a pretty long post, and I hope that you and/or anyone else that's feeling down right now will read it all the way through. :)

I want you to know that you're certainly NOT alone in what probably seems like a desperate (or even hopeless) time in your life. What you've been doing, (talking about it) and what you're planning on doing (seeing a therapist) is without a doubt one of the best things that can be done when it comes to sustained depression. I know this because I've also suffered from Years of depression as well as many other symptoms. As long as I can remember I've had thoughts of feeling down or being depressed, and it's one of the reasons I became an alcoholic and a drug addict at a very young age. I just turned 40 last month and celebrated 3 1/2 years Clean and Sober......and that was after 27 years of using drugs and alcohol to supress how I really felt.

There were so many times over the years that I felt exactly like you do, and it wasn't until I sought professional help that I discovered I'm Bi-Polar. I've always been extremely moody and just figured it was because of the messed up childhood I had,......but come to find out, I actually have an imbalance in my brain that causes a good portion of it. There are so many different reasons why a person can become depressed or moody, and some of those things have already been mentioned. Physical or Genetic, Psychological, Enviromental, just to name a few,.....but regardless of the cause, unless you talk to someone that can help you understand why you might be feeling this way, it's something that could continue for far longer than it needs to.

One of my problems has always been that I would get depressed, and then after a couple weeks of feeling down, I would always turn it into anger. I thought if I just made myself angry, I could vent some of it in an attemp to get relief for a moment. Unfortunately that just made things worse, because I always ended up doing something stupid and had to pay the consequences. Plus I still had the same crap going on inside me after it was all said and done. 3 1/2 years ago, I hit rock bottom again and lost everything I worked so hard for, except my Condo and what I had invested. Feeling like it was something that I would never overcome, I decided to seek help from the local Counceling Agency, and it was then that I learned about my disorder. I made a commitment to my Councelor that I would keep coming back as long as I felt that I was still in danger of relapsing or being cured. (which I realized will be the rest of my life) So yes, I still go see him once or twice a month, and I probably will as long as I can. I figure everytime go I learn something new, I mean who here thinks they know enough that they don't need to learn anymore?

I have to say that the reason I feel like things are more in control with my life, is because I took that first step to try and better the life I figured would always be like a Vicious Rollercoaster. Everything I've learned since then, I consider them to be "TOOLS" that I use to help me get through the rough times. Being that my diagnosis is due in part to a lack of Seratonin(sp) in my brain, I need to take medication...(which helps control my Moodiness) but it certainly isn't a cure. Everything else that helps me control of how I feel, is simply because I learned about "WHY" I was feeling that way. Without the knowledge of why you're feeling these things, it's really hard to know how to fix them. Hopefully you will find a good therapist that will help you understand all the things that are going on with you, cause like somebody said......it's usually different with each person.

A few things that I learned, (which apply to everyone) is that there's NO way to change what's already happened,...... just like there's NO way to control what's in the future. One thing we CAN do, is control how we feel. Once we realize that we have the choice to feel a certain way, it's so much easier to get through things when they come up. I use to say: "Oh he pissed me off by doing such and such", until I realized NO.....I allowed myself to get pissed off, I had the choice to react in a different way, but I never thought about it like that. You see, for every Action.....there's a Reaction! I can no longer blame any of my problems on anyone else but myself, and that's because I now have the knowledge to understand things better. I know how to figure out what's bothering me now, and what I need to do in order to make it better. As time goes on, I realize that I'm not Reacting as much as I am Resolving things as they happen. No more letting things go or allowing things to get to the point that they all come down on me at once, (thus feeling overwhelmed or helpless). Unfortunately it's not going to happen over night, and it does take a lot of effort of our part, but just knowing that it gets better, is worth the fight!!

I sure hope you get whatever it is that's going to help you, and I'm always willing to talk if you need to. I might not be able to help as much as I'd like to right now, and that's because I'm dealing with a tough situation myself. I'm currently taking care of my Dad who has End Stage Pancreatic Cancer, and he only has about 3 months left to live, therefore I'm pretty swamped. But if there's anything else you think I might be able to help you with, go ahead and PM me. I promise I'll try not to write a book like this post. :chuckles:

Sincerely,

Arch

[Kahuna]

Depression is hard to deal with, living this day and time is not easy, but you have to set your sight on the light at the end of the tunnel. God has said follow me I will give bless you, by helping others or being in service to others is great way to fight depression and to be on track to God, go to church of your choice and meet new friends, stay away from drinking and drugs that makes depression worst and steer clear of people who do this and try to get you to do it, a good friend will never try to force you to drugs/drinking if you don't want it, they will respect your desires and support you in your decision. Talk to someone, maybe a little older (in my case that's hard to do over-the-hill club) I have found that helps a great deal, look around you think you are bad off, wrong there is lots of people that's worst off than you. think about where you want to be 5 years from now, what do you want for yourseft and family, church is a great place to be now days, that's where I haved turned to, follow that light, and listen to the promises God give us and you can't go wrong. Don't know where you are, but if in Orlando Fla. area talking is great way to let off pressure...:wavey: